Category: ESTATE PLANNING

Love is undoubtedly the most profound and cherished thread that weaves us all together, and there are many different ways to express our love to the people who mean the most to us. Often when we think of showing our love, we think of bouquets of flowers, surprise gifts, and meaningful notes. But an often overlooked – and incredibly meaningful – way of showing your love is to put that love into a plan for the future.

While estate planning may seem like a realm of financial jargon and legalities, it is, at its core, a tangible expression of your care for those closest to you. (And that’s why I refer to estate planning as Life & Legacy Planning.)

In this blog, we’ll look at why adding your partner to your Will and estate plan as a whole isn’t just a romantic gesture but the ultimate act of love.

Providing Care and Protection

Estate planning is typically associated with financial matters and legal technicalities, but at its core, it’s an expression of love for those we hold dear. It’s about not leaving a mess for the people you love. It’s about providing comfort and security to your loved ones long after you’re gone. And, when you include your partner in your estate plan, you are solidifying the foundation of your love and commitment, ensuring they are cared for when you can no longer be there in person.

One of the most tangible ways to demonstrate your love is by securing your partner’s legal and financial future through thoughtful estate planning, but not just any old estate planning — in our book, it needs to be “Life & Legacy Planning” so you know you have a “plan that works to keep your family out of court and out of conflict”™ .

While a Will, Trust, and other estate planning documents are valuable, if they are not properly counseled, regularly updated, and combined with additional planning tools such as a Kids Protection Plan®, if you have minor children, and a Family Wealth Inventory plus Legacy Interviews to capture your tangible and non-tangible assets, your loved ones could be left with an expensive mess.

If you are married, your spouse already has some rights in the event of your incapacity or death, but that does not mean they have automatic access to your accounts, or even to make your health care decisions for you the way you would want. If you are not married, your unmarried partner or partners would have no rights to anything in the event of your death or incapacity. Truly the greatest gift you can give your beloved is a Life & Legacy Plan.

Avoiding Legal Complications

Love conquers many things, but we have to acknowledge that legal matters often require a bit more than just sentiment. Without a well-counseled, prepared and updated Life & Legacy Plan, your partner might find themselves entangled in legal complications when it comes to inheriting assets if something happens to you. In fact, if you and your partner aren’t married, they won’t inherit anything at all!

That’s because the law that controls what happens to your assets if you die without a plan is written with married couples in mind. That means that anyone you love who isn’t married to you or directly related to you through blood will be left with nothing when you die or if you become incapacitated, unless you plan in advance.

By including your partner in your Will and overall Life & Legacy Plan, you get to ensure they’ll receive what you would want them to in the event of your loss and spare them the stress of navigating legal intricacies during an already emotionally trying time.

Protecting The Life You Built Together

Maybe the institution of marriage isn’t your thing or you and your partner are putting off marriage plans for the time being. Nonetheless, having a plan in place isn’t something you want to put off until you’re older. Chances are good that you’ve already begun to build a life together that’s worth protecting.

Whether it’s the charming house you turned into a home or the vintage car you spent countless road trips in, shared assets are more than just possessions – they’re a part of your shared history. Including your partner in your estate plan ensures that these shared treasures are passed on smoothly, preserving the memories you built together.

And if you have children with your partner, Life & Legacy Planning takes on an even greater significance. If your partner isn’t biologically related to your children and hasn’t legally adopted them, there is no legal guarantee that your partner would be able to care for your children or even visit them if something happens to you.

Creating a Kids Protection Plan® or your kids in your estate plan is an act of profound love and responsibility. By ensuring your partner has legal authority in matters of your children’s well-being, you’re displaying a commitment to everyone’s future happiness and security.

Helping You Show The One You Love Just How Much You Care

Love binds us together – but proper estate planning, and specifically Life & Legacy Planning® puts the love you have for your partner and your family into action. It’s not just about assets and legalities; it’s a declaration of your commitment and a promise to provide for your loved one even when you’re no longer physically present.

After all, in matters of the heart, there’s no gesture more profound than securing a future together.

If you want to show your partner just how much you love them, contact us today to learn more about our Life & Legacy Planning® process to get started.

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If you’ve given any thought about estate planning, you probably associate it with preparing for death. But did you know that there are critical reasons (and significant benefits) for planning while you’re still well and alive? That’s why I refer to my services as Life & Legacy Planning. When done right, planning for your assets and your death is something that should start right now through honest, open conversations with your family.

It starts by talking with your parents, siblings, and children about what you want the future of your family to look like, how you’d like assets managed, and what type of care each family member would want in the event of a debilitating or terminal illness.

You may have already started a conversation about estate planning with your family. But this week, I dive deeper into the conversations you need to have right now to truly understand your family’s financial picture and plan for the future in the best way.

Keep reading to learn the two conversations about money and death you need to have right now.

Conversation #1: What Exactly Do Your Parents Own?

Initiating the first conversation involves posing fundamental questions to your parents and the older members of your family: “What do we have? Where is it? And, how would I access it if you weren’t here to guide me?”

The potential risk to your family’s wealth is intricately tied to the costs incurred in the event of a passing. Beyond the visible expenses of funerals, burial, or cremation, and end-of-life medical care, there exists a myriad of unseen costs.

Unclaimed assets, amounting to approximately $70 billion in various departments across the U.S., often slip through the cracks because family members don’t know where the assets are, how to get them, or that they even exist.

Because of this, tracking and documenting assets, including crypto assets, before incapacity or death is essential to protecting your family’s wealth when someone dies or becomes incapacitated.

It may be difficult to bring up this topic with your parents or other family members, but how you approach it with them will make all the difference. The secrecy of asset locations or the fear of appearing greedy may hinder an open discussion between family members, but this can be overcome by building trust between relatives and entire generations.

For the junior generation, building trust involves understanding the root causes of distrust and stepping into a mature, caring perspective for the greater family good. Similarly, senior generations can nurture trust by taking ownership of past parenting shortcomings and demonstrating faith in the individuals their children have become – after all, if you raised your children with a sense of financial and personal responsibility, you should be able to trust them!

Navigating these challenges may be daunting, but the rewards of building trust and initiating this crucial conversation are immeasurable. Use the conversation as an opportunity to record the locations and access permissions of family assets. If you aren’t sure how to do this, we can help you create a clear inventory of your assets so nothing is lost when death or illness strike.

Conversation #2: What Are Their Wishes for Long-Term Care?

The next conversation you need to have with your parents is about long-term care planning. This conversation extends beyond financial considerations and looks into the emotional intricacies of care, posing questions about who will provide care if your parents become incapacitated or disabled, how it will be administered, and the potential burdens on loved ones.

While money can be a less vulnerable entry point to this conversation, the core involves the tender question of personal care. Addressing concerns such as, “Who will take care of me? How will I be cared for? Will I be a burden on my loved ones?” brings a level of vulnerability that goes beyond financial considerations.

Neglecting this conversation can leave crucial decision-making up to the medical system, often resulting in undesirable outcomes and accumulating costs. By engaging in the long-term care conversation, clarity emerges on preferences, funding, and avenues for protection against unforeseen care costs.

Let Us Guide The Conversation

If initiating these conversations feels challenging or uncomfortable, we can help. As your Personal Family Lawyer® firm, we focus on building personal relationships with our clients and their families, and can help guide you and your family through difficult discussions and tough questions about your family’s assets and wishes.

It starts with a Life & Legacy Planning Session™, where we look at everything you own and everyone you love to identify gaps in your family’s security and make a plan that ensures everything will be cared for the way you want when you die or if you become incapacitated.

To learn more, schedule a complimentary 15-minute discovery call with us using the link below.

To get started, click here and schedule a complimentary 15-minute call.